Memsaab Said Why did not You Buy a Flat in Affordable Housing Gurgaon

1. Following is a true story. It is about a relative who retired as Col from infantry regiment in 2005.

2. He started making a house in 2003 on a huda plot which he had got allotted in 90 s. I advised him to make a house in Gurgaon. He said his village is in Rohtak and mother is also there so he will not want to go to Gurgaon.

3. I still persisted with my advice and told him he already has an ancestral house in proper Rohtak and he should renovate it and spend the retirement benefit n savings n sell huda plot in rohtak and buy in Gurgaon.

4. Our man gave me a lecture on sanskaar , mother , good son , friend circle etc.

He made a nice big house. The entrance door is huge and is of carved solid wood costing 2 lakhs at that time.

5. Lavish muharat was done in which i had also gone. All relatives were called. All sisters were given gifts. There was a great sense of achievement in his eyes. He said to me that Thank God i did not listen to your advice.

See all relatives and friends have come here. Who would come in Gurgaon? Life is not about money. Its about friends. Since my father is also retd Col from Punjab regiment i have learnt never to argue with infantries when they become emotional. Specially about people around them.

6. Carrying forward the story Col sahab ka  son  a captain in army gets married  in 2005. And the  daughter got admission in SRCC Delhi in 2005. Now the girl shifted to awwa hostel opposited subroto park. The parents used to commute almost every weekend for 3 years to delhi.

7. Captain sahab did a stint in field  and wife who was a mba had to stay with in laws in Rohtak. Taking care of in laws off course with standard khit pit. She also got into family way and had a troubled pregnancy. The delivery was scheduled for R and R delhi.

8. For full 2 months the entire family had to be in delhi. Relatives house , officer mess , transit acc n even hotels. This was the first time when col sahab wife ,the Memsaab said why didn’t you buy a flat in affordable housing gurgaon .

9. Fast forward 2009 the daughter in law went to husband. And the daughter landed a good job with deloitte . Salary was 30 k. Flat was being shared with another girl in a secured society. Col sahab gifted a car to daughter. Flat rent was 7k (her share). Maid who made food 2k. Petrol n car maintenance 2k. Clothes 3k.

Going out,milk,electricity,phone,eating out etc all in all they had to give her 5 k a month for working in gurgaon. And every weekend trip where the caring mother would get desi ghee n stuff fridge with fruits (which the maid would eat .this discovered by memsaab when she stayed for a night).

10.  The daughter was getting very dubli. The memsaab was worried. This was second time she told the col sahab why didnt u settle here in Gurgaon.

11. 2012 the girl gets married to a nice IIT boy from uttarakhand earning really well. The couple shifts to a rented 2 bhk flat on golf course in a plush society close to their offices. The boy is from a humble family and has his own liabilities hence the couple were not able to go for a flat of their own. Plus realty was really expensive in 2013.

12.  In 2014 the daughter delivery comes. The memsaab shifts to couple flat. Saas cant come or doesnt want to come as she has own daughter also i dont know exactly. But moti baat Col saab is alone now at rohtak.

13. Col saab mother left to heaven in 2011. His friends have started staying with their kids in various places. When he asked them why they r going their reply was bhai u kept roaming country. Hum toh 40 saal se yahan rohtak main puk gaye is the time for us to see world.

14. Daughter package had gone to 24 lakh by 2015. She had to quickly get to work. But with small baby it was not possible.

In steps the memsaab. In India still we trust kids to naani  than to nanny.

15. Col saab protested to memsaab. Why dadi is not coming? This was the third time  memsaab asked  him why didnt u settle in Gurgaon?

16. Col saab himself couldn’t stay in Gurgaon much. Remember 2 bhk flats in Gurgaon. Husband wife 1 room. nani and 2 yr kid in another.

17. Also remember no damaad or bahu  likes their father in law in their house. Mark this line. Nana n dada are ATM .5 min of body wants them in house. So when kid is born.come see.give money n vanish. Mother in law are welcome as they will be of benefit. maid se kaam toh karwa hi lengi. And like live cctv which can give chappat also if required.

18. In fact the situation is quid pro quo here. The memsaab is also happy at Gurgaon. All her circle of friends n relatives is in delhi n gurgaon. Daamadji weekend par uber ola kar ke unhe sab se milne ka mauka dete hain.

19. Memsaab likes the happening affluent society also. She teaches pranayaam to people in morning n is popular amongst ladies. Great oppurtunities for shopping.

20. Now 2016 The son has also become a col. Commanding a unit up north. His family now in carriapa vihar delhi cantt. Now nani has to do dadi role also as the daughter in law has picked up a job. The apna old  col saab can still not stay in carriapa vihar as again flat small. 2 kids.daughter in law n memsaab .all 4 beds for a night when he comes he sleeps in drawing room. Seeing him sleep on a cotton mattress in drawing was the fourth time memsaab asked why didnt u settle here.

21. 2018 the son hands over command and gets posted to Delhi. Now after many years i meet the col saab .

He says all his family is in gurgaon. Both son n daughter families meet on weekend n he only gets to see them on whatsapp video call.

22. He said he wanted to sell rohtak house but all he was getting is plot rate as house constructed is ground floor with a garden. Nobody wants garden now.people want stilt parking.lift n 4 floors. So any one buying will have to break n make new one. Remember the 2 lakh construction cost sunk to zero.

23. Truly speaking when I had advised him to buy a 3 bhk flat in Gurgaon even i had not imagined that this is how it will play out.And rohtak is 80 km away.But still see how the story played out.

24. 2019 finally i have got there ancestral house sold. The 2 lakh door one is a beautiful house. Mann nahi karta usko bikwane ka. Have got it rented out to a company as guest house. Have got col sahab a 2 bhk flat on rent in same society as daughter. N daughter in law has moved into same society as son col saab will go to field. And maybe retire after that.

25. Col saab takes care of 3 kids when all 3 ladies go out for shopping.every body gets to sleep in their flats yet be 1 min away from.each other. Daughter in law can wear any type of clothes in her flat no privacy issues.

Damaad and sasur meet only on drinks once a week. Whole family is thankful to me. N i am happy for them n on my advise all 3 couples have booked 3 two  bhk in plush project on dwarka expressway on same floor.

See its 2 bhk n not 3 bhk.

Change the places .Some of you may be in this situation or likely to get into. Remember kids will never stay or do job in

Rohtak meerut mohali shimla zirakpur jabalpur agra kanpur jalandhar ludhiana satara jammu munger arah balia muzaffarnagar hisar  bhiwani jhansi  mhow nainital haldwani  dehradun etc.

Have a settlement in your ancestral place. But have jugaad in your

Gurgaon Hyderabad Bangalore Pune Delhi Ahmadabad jaipur Cochin Chennai.

Else loneliness because of your egoistic attitude n stupidity is painful.

Lessons learnt

1. Having a house and settling there are 2 different things. Please understand this.

2.  There is nothing like settling or final settlement. The final settlement is when you leave finally.

3. Friends n relatives are not important. They can do without you and you can do without them. Its family which is important. Don’t be selfish.

4. If you have separate kitchens then yes saas bahu can co exist happily in same tower.

5. Living with grandchildren and watch them grow is a joy. Create conditions for that.

6. Today’s time your bahu n daughter will work. N will require support. But remember point 17 above also.

7. If you do not have foresight than budhapa kharab hona is certain for the man. Nobody likes a old man in their own house who will ask tea 5 times a day. even if his pension is 1 lakh.

8. Family can grow financially n emotionally if they stay close. Children having grandparents around whose patience levels are more will do well

9. In today challenging times where couple working lot of enjoyment gets compromised. stress is more. Marriages are breaking.

10. A simple thing where children go to grandparents next door for a night or after noon can give young couple something to look forward.

11. Groceries, maids, drivers etc can be shared optimizing resources.

12. The young couple can travel leaving kids to grandparents next door without compromising school. If you can indirectly make your kids married life good isn’t it a great achievement. Who likes to see their children getting divorced? Divorces are on rise. And parents watch helplessly from their small towns this nazaara. Couples need some me time. And grandparents in close vicinity can help.

13. Buy when still something can be bought in budget. 2bhk if not 3bhk. Don’t fret about pollution. Pollution is for those who can’t afford to stay in big cities. Go away for that 1 month.

No city in world including New York which doesn’t face any issue for a month in a year. be it snow or rain. N things are getting better.

14. And last remember children when they do jobs will have limited leave. They wont come to you. Acchi jagah jayenge.

U wont be able to. Come to them because they will stay in small flats.



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